What does validating feelings mean

09-Jul-2014 04:03

Validation nurtures emotional safety, honesty and expression of underlying emotions.

Bringing about feelings of being understood, establishes a basis for emotional safety.

Since we don’t know for sure what the person is feeling, use words that are gentle and open to possibilities.

“It must be very difficult to be in this situation.” “I can’t even begin to imagine what you are going through.” “It seems like things were going well and then this happened.” “I’m not sure, but it appears you are saying that this makes you very angry.” “Do you feel like in a way you were blindsided?

Continue this process until the person feels understood.

People feel understood without ever using the word “understood” because we are confirming their feelings and emotions.

There are often barriers that impact our willingness or ability to follow through with this healing step. • If I validate, they will get stuck in complaining about their problem.

The information in Skillful Means (SM) is no substitute for professional psychological or physical health care, nor for mature spiritual guidance.Validation occurs when we confirm, mostly through words, that other people can have their own emotional experiences.A simple statement like, “It must be difficult and painful to have something like that occur,” can be validating.We are not confirming that the feelings are right, or correct, or even okay. Simply stated, “We are confirming that they have just received an emotional package.” The challenge is to allow them open the emotional package the way they want to open it.Statements of Validation Try to validate the feelings the person has shared.

The information in Skillful Means (SM) is no substitute for professional psychological or physical health care, nor for mature spiritual guidance.Validation occurs when we confirm, mostly through words, that other people can have their own emotional experiences.A simple statement like, “It must be difficult and painful to have something like that occur,” can be validating.We are not confirming that the feelings are right, or correct, or even okay. Simply stated, “We are confirming that they have just received an emotional package.” The challenge is to allow them open the emotional package the way they want to open it.Statements of Validation Try to validate the feelings the person has shared.• When I feel hopeless it’s challenging to validate because it feels like it doesn’t matter anyway.